Peter Murphy recently interviewed communication expert John Barker. John is a professional coach and author with a Bachelor of Arts degree in Communication Arts and Sciences. He even served in the White House where he worked with the White House Communications Agency.

They discussed communication and uncovered some valuable insights that people can immediately apply to make measurable improvements in their lives.

PETER:

1 Nowadays more and more people are learning how to let go of limiting feelings to improve the quality of their lives. When it comes to communicating effectively with other people what are the main barriers to effective and purposeful communication Wholesale NFL Jerseys , and how can we let go of these limitations?

JOHN:

The barriers vary from person to person, however, the most common one I encounter in working with people is the desire to change others to fit our expectations. There are many paths to the same destination; if we release our desires we open up an infinite number of possibilities. So long as we agree on the destination we want - the feeling we want - "the how" doesn't matter.

Any time we feel we want to change someone or something, this is a time when we can recognize and release our desire for control.

The other part of this, is that very often we are re-living past conversations. If we have had a conflict with someone in the past; if we hold onto that feeling we bring it to the new conversation. We brace our self for dealing with the inevitable confrontation and we don't really hear what is being said in the moment. This is why it is so important and valuable to be able to release things as they come up.

PETER:

2 Very often in life we know what to say and yet get tongue tied and fail to follow through when the pressure is on. What is the answer to this common challenge?

JOHN:

We become tongue-tied or freeze up due to our attachment to the outcome. There IS no pressure Wholesale Jerseys Free Shipping , only attachment to feelings and outcomes. By releasing on our attachment to the outcome and welcoming the experience as it occurs, we free ourselves to experience the moment effortlessly. This experience allows us to perform at our best.

And, if a person does feel anxiety, stress or self-consciousness in a situation like this, trying to make the feeling go away only makes it stronger. I often use the analogy of a big brother picking on a younger sibling. Why does he do this? To get a reaction. The bigger and better the reaction Wholesale Jerseys China , the more we encourage it. But if we welcome what is going on, he gives up. It is not as much fun as getting the reaction! And, he goes away.

The same is true of the feelings we want to go away. If we welcome them and allow them to be, it is amazing how quickly that feeling will dissolve and be replaced with a feeling of peace and calm. And, sometimes we can even smile or laugh at ourselves about it because it is such a relief to just allow ourselves to be how we are.

PETER:

3 Dealing with difficult people can really stretch our patience and verbal flexibility. What are your top tips for handling these situations?

JOHN:

Release! Release! Release!

It is important to remain aware of Wholesale Jerseys , and release, our desire for security, approval and control as these feelings arise in our consciousness. It can also be important to recognize the other person's need for security, approval and control as well. Understanding allows compassion.

I know I've wasted a lot of energy in my life trying to change other people! It's an impossible job, really. And Cheap Authentic NFL Jerseys , it is amazing how often, when we stop resisting how people are, they just magically seem to make those changes we wanted in the first place.

PETER:

4 In the mad rush to get ahead very often the most important people in our lives don't always get our full attention. How can we make sure we really listen and value the little time we do have with family and friends?

JOHN:

This is a real key question for many of us. I think many of us focus on allowing new things into our life; more money, more romance, more fun Cheap NFL Jerseys Online , more friends. But I think it's equally important for us to recognize what we allow into our life that prevents us from having the time we desire for the people we value most.

Ultimately, each of us must look at our motivations for engaging in the "mad rush to get ahead". We each learn models of being in order to create results and we conform to them out of our desire for approval. But, I think we all know people who work hard and never get ahead. So is working hard the answer?

Having anything you desire truly is effortless, when you release it. For me, releasing creates so many opportunities and alternatives. When I let go Cheap NFL Jerseys Free Shipping , I let go of lack and limitation. In its place abundance appears.

My favorite quote from Lester Levenson is "Any complexity in life is the ego trying to undo the simplicity of reality." Lack is a creation, a mental concept. Whether that lack be time, money, love, or whatever. Lack is a problem we have created Cheap NFL Jerseys Wholesale , like all problems.

PETER:

5 In the workplace how we express ourselves has a major impact on how we are perceived by our peers. How can we communicate in a way that creates a favorable impression that reflects our contribution to the business?

JOHN:

If our ultimate goal is "Happiness without sorrow", then I think we first need to release on our desire for creating that "favorable impression". At best, that is only a guess regarding what the other person might want. And, it creates a limitation for us that restricts our energy, our best ideas Cheap NFL Jerseys From China , and the real contribution we can be to the business.

Early in my career, seeking to be a "people pleaser" was one of my biggest blocks. Learning to let go of wanting my peer's approval has freed me to put forth my ideas - both "good" and "bad". And, someti

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